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No More Negotiating



 NO MORE NEGOTIATING


Have you ever gotten off track with your priorities... and then God nudges you back?

I spent a lot of last year gaining perspective on what I really want my life to look and feel like. I learned to set boundaries. Like saying "no" to some requests and blocking out time for myself and my kids. But, it's so easy to slip off track without realizing how it happened!

As many of you know, I started a new business venture recently & I am totally pumped about it! So pumped, that I find myself working through my designated family or personal time. Because I CAN. Because I WANT to.

But, yesterday, it hit me like a ton of bricks. Well, maybe it was like one brick at a time, until I realized it. I had greeted the boys when they got home and made sure all was well. There were a few things I had planned to accomplish but hadn't quite gotten to, so I told them to give me an hour to do some work before we hang out. All was cool. But, I sat down at the computer & drew a blank. Every little task I started to do hit a barrier. I just couldn't get something accomplished. Before I knew it, an hour went by. "Well that was stupid," I told myself.

But then I remembered WHY I added this new venture. It was to allow me MORE time for myself and MORE time with my kids. Not less! The older I get, the less productive I am after about 3pm. And last night, I realized why God made me that way. It is to free me up by the time the kids get home. I'm not really good at much after then, anyway.

I see now that I should keep that boundary and not try to mess with it. From now on, it's a "non-negotiable". I may have an actual scheduled meeting or client appointment on occasion, but when I'm scheduled for family time, I am sticking to it. I mean, look at those 2! They are not that little anymore 😢 Just because they are old enough to let me get stuff done now, it doesn't mean I should, right?

How about you? What boundaries do you let slide? What do you need to make a "non-negotiable"? This is your nudge... or ton of bricks. You're welcome 😋

Live Abundantly.

💗, Kristen

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